The first time I heard Usher’s latest single “Good Kisser” I was actually shocked that yet another blatantly erotic song catering to male sexual pleasure had reached the airwaves. Shocked, not because of the theme, which have become almost de rigueur for popular radio, but more so that a similar song by a female would be seen as crass and would never receive the amount of airplay as Kisser will inevitably get this summer. A quick scan of Youtube comments shows that the true meaning of the song has completely flown over the heads of most people, but after careful listening, reveals the singer’s adoration for his lover’s ability to perform good oral.
 
Despite the open sexual candor of male r&b and hip hop singers, I can’t think of a recent female artist who has created a song devoted to the joys of cunnilingus. Back in the 90’s, Lil Kim sang:
 …Tell me what’s on your mind when the tongue is in the P*ssy,
 but Big Mamma Thing was more an ode to female braggadocious boss-ness in an arena of male dominance, than to female oral pleasure. Girl group SWV had a popular song called Downtown that took charge of the situation, and told the men directly what we women wanted. At the time, it was seen as lewd, but honestly, Luke Campbell was doing far, far worse things on film and record.
Despite the open sexual candor of male r&b and hip hop singers, I can’t think of a recent female artist who has created a song devoted to the joys of cunnilingus.
But that was 20 years ago, and today we have Nicki Minaj displaying her variations of hyperbolic, man-snatching sexiness, while Beyonce brags about her semen-covered dress. Kelly Rowland had the most underrated song about the subject, and it won’t ever get the play that Usher will.

Where is the support for female sexuality in music? Or are we relegated to being on our knees?